Q. I’m
in a panic. My boss just told me I have to give our department’s
monthlyreport to management next week, and I’ve never been very
good at speaking in front of groups. Can you give me some tips to
help me survive? —Bette
C.
A. The
best advice I can give you is to look at this as a terrific
opportunity to let your light shine in front of people who control
your career. Let’s start with your first concern: you’re
in a panic. It may surprise you to learn that the #1 fear listed in
the Book of Lists is
speaking in front of a group. (Death and divorce are #2 and #3.) So
let’s help you put your fears in perspective.
1. By-Pass Your
Fears.
Focus only on your talk
and selling your ideas across.
2. Be Prepared.
When you know your
subject thoroughly, there's little to fear, because you probably know
more about the topic than anyone else in the room. How much
preparation? Rehearse your talk for as long as it takes to make you
feel confident that you know what you want to say and how to say it.
Usually a ratio of 8:1 is the norm; if you’ve giving a 1/2-hour
talk, rehearse it for at least four hours. You may even need eight
or ten hours--whatever it takes.
3.
Use Humor.
When you use humor,
people feel more comfortable with you, and you'll feel more
comfortable with them.
4. Act confident.
In other words, fake it
until you make it. When you show confidence, it puts your audience at
ease. Try this:
Use a strong voice that
doesn't falter.
Speak slowly enough so
you don't have to grope for words.
Smile often, if
appropriate.
Use firm, definite
gestures.
Don’t put your
hands up to your face.
Don’t fidget with
rings, pencils, your lapels, or anything else.
5.
Speak Slowly, with Short
Sentences.
Talking too fast will
make you feel even more nervous, because you’ll feel like
you’re losing control. You are.
6. Watch Your
Audience.
Think of your talk as a
one-to-one conversation with each person in the audience. Look at
someone directly as you speak. After a few seconds, pick another
person to talk to focus on. Keep doing that until you engage the
entire audience.
7. Use
Plenty of Pauses.
Pauses help you use
shorter, clearer sentences. They help you to establish control and
speak more
deliberately and
carefully. They make it easier for you to breathe, too.
8. Turn Fear into
Enthusiasm.
Do it by being
enthusiastic. Raise—and vary— your volume and tone; use
gestures, show the excitement or the commitment you feel about your
ideas. Once you’ve got your fear under control, the rest is
relatively easy:
command attention, and
breathe from your diaphragm. If you’re projecting right, you
shouldn’t feel any discomfort in your throat.
Stay on the topic.
Organize your ideas into a simple outline you can remember, so that
you don’t stray from your focus. If your mind wanders, theirs
will, too.
Use real-life examples.
People remember things they hear when they're expressed in
down-to-earth terms. Stories or examples based on your personal
experiences, sometimes with humorous illustrations, will help people
remember your message.
Don't read your talk.
When you need to, refer to a few key ideas from a basic outline or
from overhead transparencies. Reading keeps you from paying
attention to audience. And if you
can't remember what you want to say, how can you expect your
listeners to?
Focus on beginnings and
endings. Make your topic statement—your key idea—at the
beginning and summarize it again at the end. Open with a startling
statement, a powerful question, a personal reference, an exhibit, a
specific example, or an illustration that will appeal to the
audience's self-interest. Grab their attention fast.
Finally, use your face
to show emotion and reinforce your talk: move your eyebrows, grit
your teeth, open your lips, show a broad smile. Even use pantomime
or impersonation if it’ll drive home a key point. You think
that's acting? Of course it is, and that's part of any really good
presentation. You haven’t been asked to go to a meeting and
read something; you’ve been asked to present ideas in a
valuable helpful way. So go for it with enthusiasm and confidence.
You’ll enjoy the experience better, and your audience will,
too.
Knock ‘em alive!